God basically says, “Here’s what you are to DO.” Not, “How does that make you feel?”
The Bible does not show that Christians ought to spend a long time working with abusers calling them to account and educating them on how they should think and behave (and feel).
God only did a single short counseling session with Cain. He did not take a therapeutic approach (feeling-based) by gently inviting Cain to explore his emotions, thoughts and life story. He was not sucked in by the hang-dog look on Cain’s face. He just asked Cain a couple of confronting questions and then issued a blunt warning and a stern directive. “Do what is right!” He didn’t spend lots of time spelling out what right and wrong behavior looked like. He did not spoon feed Cain or give him a “list”. He assumed that Cain knew right from wrong.
6 Then the Lord said to Cain, “Why are you angry? And why has your countenance (feelings) fallen? 7 If you do well, will not your countenance (feelings) be lifted up? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door; and its desire is for you, but you must master it.” (Genesis 4:6-7 NASB)
That was it. There was no second session. And no pulling Abel in for a joint counseling session.